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Maintaining interest in a relationship between a man and a woman is a more difficult task than winning a man's attention. And here, as in any dynamic process, an important role is played by the constant personal growth of the fair sex, the continuous development of her individual positive qualities and the ability to build a dialogue with her loved one.

The psychological feature of all men without exception is the desire to hear their echo and see their shadow. This does not mean that a woman should turn into one and the other unconditionally, but the fact that you can win the attention of a loved one only by copying his steps from time to time and speaking in his words is an absolute truth.

Male interest in a person of the opposite sex is not always dictated by the desire for a serious relationship. After all, the first assessment given by a man to a woman he likes is, after all, a tribute to visualization (the way a lady looks, how desirable and attractive she is). In second place in importance is the manner of communication, represented by two complementary processes:

verbal transmission. This is what a woman says when communicating with a man in person or writes by typing text via SMS.
non-verbal transmission. This is “body language”, which is perceived by naive men as a completely unconscious factor and which is not difficult for a woman to turn in her favor, having at least a minimum of knowledge about the psychology of communication.

In 9 cases out of 10, a man initiates an acquaintance and offers a woman further communication, obeying her invitation signals. And, on the contrary, only 5 people out of a hundred are ready to invite a girl on a date who is opposed to this individual with hidden hostility. All this speaks of the great power of the implicit, peeping through the framework of moral conventions, non-verbal communication.

It is important for any man to know that he will not be refused when trying to get close, so he will always wait for a sign from a girl that could be interpreted unambiguously. He will wait for exactly such signs in the future. If a woman understands this from the very beginning and does not reproach her partner for “rags”, but skillfully leads him in the right direction, the relationship can be considered strong and established.

But often even a stormy romance ends in nothing. The collapse occurs at a turning point in the transition of relations to a new stage, when both partners overestimate the mutual influence on each other and their own importance in the eyes of the satellite. The world of sensations ceases to bring novelty to relationships, the accumulated experience gives way to the first conclusions. And during this period, it is very important for a woman to learn how to build a dialogue, first of all, a non-verbal dialogue in which a man wants to participate.

The combat arsenal provided by default to every woman and which can turn any situation in her favor is:

voice control (timbre);
meekness and tenderness;
patience and care;
unquenchable passion for a partner;
self-sufficiency.

As can be seen from the above, only the last item contains qualities that a woman will really have to develop in herself. The rest of the qualities are easy to learn and introduce them into everyday life, as good habits, even if sometimes you have to pretend (and sometimes you have to).

Voice control is half the success

If you can call our words and phrases addressed to a man the front side of communication, then the timbre of the voice, its color in warm or cold tones is the wrong side, which, as everyone knows, should be soft, comfortable and not prick. There is information about one old study, conducted back in Soviet times. The male subjects assessed their internal sensations by listening to the voices of different women coming to them from the telephone receiver. Within a few minutes allotted for the experiment, they managed to listen to several phrases from 5-7 women they did not know. Here are the conclusions:

95% of the subjects after 8 seconds of communication were ready to openly admit their sympathy for the owners of a deep, “velvet” voice. Such a timbre inspired them with calmness, self-confidence and pictured in their imagination a beautiful, slender lady with a whole nature.
Almost all the men admitted that a woman's voice, slightly hoarse and breathy, aroused erotic fantasies in them. This affected not only the subconscious level, but also the physiological one.
Girls with a sharp, shrill voice were considered pleasant only by individuals who unconsciously strive for the role of a child in the family. These are the men who welcome the supremacy of a woman in all aspects of life and are quite content with the modest position of "the husband of his wife."
High, childish voices, on the contrary, attracted those who are not ready to put up with the equality of a woman and seek, rather, to “adopt” a life partner, giving her care and attention, and in return demanding unconditional submission.

Of course, there is a fan for every feature. But if we are talking about how to bind a man to yourself for a long time and remain invariably attractive to him, it is better to influence his predictable sides, which invariably respond with the “right” reaction.

The psychology of conversational communication to maintain relationships

Not only the appearance of a woman is transformed after entering into a serious relationship, her manner of speaking also changes, and almost always not for the better. But such a mistake is worth many destroyed family or pre-family ties. Psychologists warn: if before the start of “close” communication with a man, a girl is still allowed to experiment with a shocking manner of communication, while the guy is so in love that he is “blind and deaf”, then the new period of “adult life” for both should be associated exclusively with pleasant emotions.

And in the first year of family life, and in the second ten, a man’s perception of the intonation of his partner’s voice will not be dulled. He will not like shrill cries if he initially reached out to the girl because of her quiet voice and laconicism. It is impossible to accustom to this, but to force a man to go through the point of no return, when the sound of the voice of his once beloved wife becomes hateful to him, is quite real. To prevent the fading of strong feelings, to control the love of a man, strengthening it at a momentary desire in the power of any woman.

To help develop this ability, several useful tips, which are applicable at any stage of the relationship: at the beginning of a pleasant acquaintance or after many years of marriage:

The girl's voice should never sink to lifelessness, which will be perceived as indifference.
Gestures and facial expressions must match the words. If a girl talks to a guy about pleasant moments, non-verbal language should not show hysteria.
If a man shows uncertainty in some matters, the woman's voice should sound stronger, more emotional. This speaks of harmony, mutual support.
A man needs to be listened to, no matter what he says, and all the time he is stimulated by manifestations of the most sincere interest.
You should never criticize the interlocutor-husband, otherwise he will look for another grateful and understanding listener.
When you are alone with your partner, you should at least sometimes talk like a catwoman - categorically, passionately, letting him read sexual desire in his voice. Such a “zest” slipping in communication with a man binds him stronger than the bonds of a long-term marriage.

An important point: the girl should be able to conclude all the important information that needs to be conveyed in the first half minute of her monologue - that is how much a man is able to keep his attention on the words of his interlocutor. If a woman believes that the conversation is not over, it is important to attract the attention of a partner in time with an unexpected compliment. Men can listen to praises for their person for hours without losing interest, so this technique - giving pills and gingerbread alternately - is very important to learn and not be shy to use it.

The return of the interest of a loved one

Even the most passionate love relationship one day it's time to readjust into one of the forms of satiety. At best, such a rebirth leads to the foundation of even stronger, intimate bonds on a subconscious level. People become as if one whole. But in most situations, the couple is held only by the fear of losing comfortable conditions life and sluggishly moves from one stage of relationship to another, without knowing the target state of marriage - true love.

A woman, as a more flexible and sensual creature, should be the first to feel the cooling of relations and make sure that her husband stops taking her intimacy for granted. But for this you will have to make an effort, because the force of habit affects both equally, and one awareness of the problem is too small a step to achieve results.

Here is a set of simple “family laws”, the observance of the points of which will not cause much trouble, but will help return the former passion and interest in each other to the relationship. It is very important to fulfill each item of simple rules at least once every day, and very quickly communication with your beloved man will rise to a new wave of mutual interest:

Regardless of who escorts whom to work, every morning the spouses should meet together and exchange plans for the current day.
Once again, you need to carefully but persistently force the man to speak out, just like in the first years of the relationship, when he excitedly hurried to tell all the events of the past day.
During a conversation - no matter what - you should praise your loved one at least once, say how right he is. This will boost his self-esteem.
Every day, it is necessary to stimulate the partner with humble requests to perform some kind of “male” act, as if emphasizing his strength and his own weakness, even if for this you have to tear nails out of the wall with your own hands and drop curtain rods on the floor.
A woman needs to learn to be immodest and periodically praise herself with “random” phrases: “to such a beauty as me ...”, “to me, with my appearance, everything is available ...”.

It must be remembered that guys quickly lose the habit of seeing their companion as a listener if they are not encouraged, so a girl needs to constantly be interesting in communication and always have a story in reserve to maintain a dialogue. Lack of own interesting stories in the present, this is not a reason to turn into a silent idol. You can always remember something from the past or even invent it, skillfully warming up the interlocutor's fantasy with reticence or excessive frankness.

How to communicate with a man by correspondence?

Increasing modern trend starting novels on the Internet by correspondence has already managed to form a separate area of communication psychology, which has its own secrets. Such relationships, before moving into the stage of a personal meeting, or even without planning one, can last for years.

Interestingly, the statistics that already exist on this account state that people who nevertheless decide to live together after long-term communication on the Internet, in 75% of cases create very strong and enviable ties based on complete understanding. This is due precisely to the long experience of maintaining interest in each other without a real sexual context.

The girls who found their other half on the Internet shared their personal experience on how to speak and respond correctly in correspondence with the interlocutor so that he always had an interest in the invisible addresser:

No need to rush to write a message as soon as the guy appeared on the network. Let the guy write 5 times first, and the girl writes the 6th time. So a man is taught to take initiative in relationships and at the same time show him indifference.
You need to write in your own words, but without building monologues in the form of "letters to an unknown reader." Guys get tired of long arguments.
You need to forget about short one-word answers and try to build phrases in such a way that the young person can develop the topic.
Men hate manifestations of depression, echoes of heavy thoughts, so the girl will have to become light as a butterfly, and splash out all the negativity on the dark screen of a turned off computer.
No matter what happens, communicating with a man by correspondence, he cannot be blamed for anything. If there is a reason for this, reproaches can be replaced with “punishment” - citing fatigue, leave the correspondence earlier than usual and not appear on the network longer than always.

Most modern men are so lack of initiative that they are ready to be satisfied with one fascinating correspondence without bringing communication to a logical continuation. Therefore, if a girl believes that the limit of her patience has been exhausted, the interlocutor needs to be pushed to take decisive action. This can be done by arousing jealousy in him for invisible "rivals" or by hinting that futility in various life situations tiresome and evokes unpleasant thoughts.

Receiving support from a girlfriend, a man asserts himself and can no longer do without the one who elevated him to this high level. And if the girl he loves also arouses his curiosity, constantly fueling interest in the relationship, such a union can be considered ideal.

And some secrets...

I looked at my husband in fascination, and he did not take his admiring eyes off his mistress. He acted like a lovesick jerk...compatibility horoscope

Based on hundreds of studies, scientists have long proven that men and women look very little alike. They think differently, look at the world from different angles. However, people in their daily communication do not take these facts into account at all, and it is enough to learn how to properly and dignifiedly communicate with men in order to avoid many small and large troubles.

Psychology and gender relations is a complex and subtle science. But her granite is worth tasting to build a lasting and even relationship.

Strong and long-term relationships arise only between equal partners. Of course, you can pose as much as you like as a sweet little fool, whom men supposedly love so much, but it is unlikely that you will be able to achieve respect for yourself in such a role. And without respect it is impossible to count on the fact that they will listen to you, take into account your opinion, care for peace of mind.

Therefore, the first step is to work on yourself, you need to set yourself up correctly. In fact, the psychology is simple: yes, it is important for the stronger sex appearance, attractiveness, beauty, but a smart self-sufficient person does not want to spend his whole life with an empty and uninteresting woman.

We keep our nerves in check

Women are by nature very emotional. Men, on the other hand, are not particularly inclined to pour out their worries on others. Such is their psychology.

A woman upset or worried about something often screams, swears, breaks down on others. However, it is unlikely that she will be able to convey to the man in this way the idea that she needs help or just support, that he needs to somehow change his behavior, and so on.

The strong sex is not able to draw anything constructive from a prolonged hysteria. For him, this is just a frightening irritant that arose from nowhere and it is not clear what to do with it. Perhaps an urgent escape is the only thing that will come to his mind.

So, if there is a desire to achieve something from a man and keep peace in the family, you must behave correctly. No, this does not mean giving up your own feelings, but it is necessary to splash them out wisely. It is better for a man to explain everything sensibly - the return will not keep you waiting.

A man has thoughts and feelings too

Men's psychology differs from women's in many other ways. Most of the fairer sex consider the stronger sex to be completely insensitive and hardly able to concentrate on important things. In fact, this is definitely not true. How to learn to communicate with men so that they open up and participate in the dialogue? How to build a conversation?

First of all, it is necessary to communicate, to push the partner to think about his feelings, views. For example, it is unlikely that you will be able to find out the thoughts of a man by starting a conversation as follows: “I just thought that we could go to the dacha (shop, guests, on vacation).” Why react to this somehow, if the woman has already thought everything over, made a decision? The situation will develop completely differently if you say: “What do you think about…”

Observation is the key to understanding

Any representative of the stronger sex is a complex being, his psychology is a separate science. Unlike a woman, it is quite normal for a man to say one thing and do something completely different. At the same time, he will not notice the difference and will not understand what is wrong. How to understand a man and talk to him correctly in order to get what you need?

The key is to be able to observe. Experiencing an emotional upsurge, a man easily makes many promises, which he is then in no hurry to fulfill. This is not because it is harmful or optional. It's just that the emotions subsided, he began to think soberly, he no longer sees the need to rush, to do something immediately. No, he will do everything, but then.

How to do the right thing? Watching a man, you can understand how much he is inclined to make rash promises and how quickly and accurately to fulfill them. Given all these nuances, it will be much easier to build a dialogue. First, it is best to turn the moment of making a promise into the moment of its implementation. If it doesn’t work out, it’s worth recalling how nice it was to hear that a man is ready to do this and that, let him feel that same emotional upsurge again.

The subtleties of a good fight

The best fight is the one that never happened. This rule should always be remembered when there is a desire to sort things out with a man.

The fact is that male psychology is the psychology of a warrior. Whatever it is, the desire to win is genetically inherent in it. Therefore, in a quarrel with the stronger sex, it is impossible to prevail. Even if it is obvious that a woman says everything correctly, nothing will make a man agree with her. Why is this happening?

Everything is simple. At the moment when the conflict begins, the woman ceases to be the weaker sex, turns into an adversary. And the enemy must be defeated at any cost.

How to be? Don't bring things to a confrontation. No aggression, only peaceful discussion. Any issue can be resolved without raised tones.

Conqueror and winner

Yes, a man wants to win, in everything in life he strives to be the first. This is a very important character trait that should not be forgotten if there is a desire to speak with him reasonably and correctly.

First of all, a man does not need a woman to solve his problems for him. Or did what he should do himself. The only thing he needs is faith in his strength and support. In the words "I know that you will succeed" there is such a strong magic that the stronger sex literally becomes able to soar over any difficulties.

Common mistakes to deal with immediately

The habit of thinking out loud. Women are able to keep in mind a huge number of cases that they can talk about at the same time, jumping from one to another. Surprisingly, this helps them organize their thoughts. For a man, this is a terrible psychological attack. In order not to bring them to the state of a nervous tic, it is enough just to immediately warn that there is absolutely no need to follow the mental chain, it is enough just to listen.
The habit of interrupting. This is unlikely to please anyone, but men are especially susceptible to such impudence. The fact is that they can not immediately listen and speak. They need to complete their thought, then calmly listen to the interlocutor. By the way, the skill to behave in a conversation is useful in any society.
The habit of hinting. The life of a man should be subject to logic. He sees no logic in hints. As often, he does not observe the goal pursued by a woman with her visits from afar. This either annoys him, or he simply does not pay attention to what is happening. In general, you should speak clearly and clearly. Even an elementary female “you couldn’t” is perceived by a man as a kind of challenge. Of course he can! But whether he will do it is a big question, because in fact he was not asked about it. In addition, a man can see in any hints an attempt to manipulate him - and this is already unacceptable! So you need to manipulate wisely.
The habit of resentful silence. It seems to a woman that if a man offended her, and she is silent, does not talk to him, then he gradually begins to feel the full depth of his guilt. In fact, everything is completely different. The man enjoys peace and quiet, no one touches him, and after half an hour he completely forgot that there was some kind of conflict. There is only one advice - a woman should express her claims immediately, because only then it makes sense.

The ability to communicate with a man is important for any woman. For some, it will help save the marriage, make family life easy, pleasant. Someone will meet his soul mate, establish a wonderful relationship with her. Someone will be promoted. In any case, these skills are unlikely to be superfluous.

A man can say: "I have a terrible blockage at work; I recently experienced the breakup of a serious relationship, which was a big blow for me; the divorce of my parents left an indelible mark on my soul and brought a lot of new troubles; now I need to focus on my career".

It's easier for men to jump out of a window than to say, "You're not good for me." Women, stop making excuses for them, their actions speak for themselves: they just don't like you.

This is exactly what the authors of the book "The Whole Truth About Men" think. Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuchillo, reports Day.Az with reference to Kluber. They compiled a list of excuses that every woman who hopes for happiness should avoid:

1. He doesn't like you that much if he doesn't ask you out on a date.

Because if he likes you, he will definitely make an appointment with you.

Excuse: "Maybe he doesn't want to ruin our friendship." I hate to tell you about it, but this excuse does not stand up to scrutiny. And please don't tell me he's just "afraid". The only thing he is afraid of is admitting that you are not attracted to him at all.

Excuse: "Probably he doesn't dare to take the first step." You can hint to a man that you have sympathy for him, but you should not help him ask you out on a date. The fact that you smile and playfully wink at him will be enough.

Excuse: "Maybe he doesn't want to rush things." If a man really likes you, but there are deeply personal reasons why he does not want to rush things, he will immediately tell you about it. He will not leave you in the dark, as he needs confidence that you will not be disappointed and will not disappear from his life.

Excuse: "But he gave me his phone number." Don't let him use cheap tricks to get you to ask him out on a date. If you are interested in a man, he will take care of everything.

Excuse: "Maybe he forgot about me." Be sure you impress him. Now leave everything as it is. If he likes you, he will remember you even after a tsunami, a flood, or the defeat of the football team in the next match.

Remember:

Any excuse essentially means that you are of little interest to him. Men are not afraid to "destroy friendships".
- Don't fall for his tricks and don't ask him out on a date. If he likes you, he will invite you.
- If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.

- "Hey, let's meet at such and such a party (in some bar) at a friend's house" does not belong to the category of invitations for a date.

You are good enough to be asked out on a date.

2. He doesn't like you that much if he doesn't call you.

Men know how to use the phone.

Excuse: "But he's on the road so often." Take note: the man who is interested in you wants to spend time with you.

Excuse: "But he's got other things on his mind." He should never forget that he promised to call you. Don't you expect the kind of guy who would rather forget about everything that happened in his life than forget about you?

Excuse: "He doesn't say what he really thinks." Here's the problem: At the end of a date or phone call, many men tell you what they think you'd like to hear. They think it's better than nothing. So if the guy you're dating doesn't call you despite all his promises, is it worth getting hung up on? After all, you need a man who can at least keep his word.

Excuse: "But he's very busy." The word "busy" is complete nonsense. The word "busy" in one gulp can destroy any relationship. Extremely "busy" may seem like a plausible excuse, but in fact, behind this concept there is always a man who was not interested in calling you.

Remember:

If he doesn't call you, then he doesn't care about you.

If he makes promises and then fails you over small things, rest assured that the same thing will happen when it comes to more serious things.

You should not build a relationship with someone who is not able to keep his word.

If he is unwilling to make the slightest effort to calm you down and smooth out the brewing conflicts in your relationship, then he simply does not respect your feelings and needs.

You deserve to be called.

3. He doesn't like you that much if he doesn't acknowledge the fact that you're dating.

Spending time together doesn't mean dating.

Excuse: "He just went through a painful breakup." Beware of the word "friend". It is often used by men or women who are in love with those men/women to justify their most piggy behaviour.

Excuse: "But we do date." Men, just like women, seek to find a sense of security and security when they see a relationship become serious. One common way to achieve this is to lay claim to a loved one. A man who is truly infatuated with you will want you to belong to him completely. And what's wrong with that?

Excuse: "It's better than nothing." Let me remind you: you need a man who wants to see you, calls you regularly and makes you feel like the most desirable woman in the world. A relationship in which you meet a man once every two weeks or once a month, without feeling any love or sympathy from him, can last a day, or a week, or a month. But can they last a lifetime?

Remember:

Men talk about their feelings, even if you refuse to listen or do not believe their confessions. "I'm not ready for a serious relationship" means "I'm not ready for a serious relationship with you."

- "Better than nothing" should not suit you.

If you don't understand what's going on in your relationship, then it's okay to slow down and ask him a few questions.

There is one guy in the world who wants to tell everyone and everyone that he is your boyfriend. Go and find him.

4. He doesn't like you that much if he sleeps with another woman.

There is no truly compelling excuse for cheating.

Justification: "He has no excuse, and he knows it." Change is bad. And the inability to explain why you cheated on a person is even worse. If one red flag isn't enough for you, how about two? Don't date men who don't know why they did something.

Excuse: "But I got fat." Yeah, of course, you need to lose 90 kg in the form of your worthless boyfriend, and not at all the twenty kilos that he talks about. Get rid of this loser immediately.

Excuse: "He needs more lovemaking than I do." There is no excuse for him cheating on you. Dot. There are many ways to solve this rather common problem that arises from the difference in sexual appetites.

Excuse: "But at least he knew her." I explain in other words: it doesn’t matter if he loves you or not. He has made it clear to you how he feels about your novel. He went on about his feelings and arranged everything in such a way as to be alone with another woman, kiss her ...

Remember:

There is no excuse for change. Let me repeat: there is no excuse for cheating. Now say it yourself: there is no excuse for cheating.

The only thing you are responsible for in the moral fall of another person is your own feelings.

Change is change. It does not matter with whom he cheated on you and how many times this happened.

Deceivers are never happy.

An unfaithful man first of all cheats on himself, since he cannot build a normal relationship with you.

5. He doesn't like you that much if he only wants to see you when he's drunk.

If he likes you, he will seek to see you when his brain is not clouded by alcohol fumes.

Excuse: "But I like it when he's drunk." If, sitting in a bar, he drunk says something like: "Baby, you're so beautiful!" and at the same time hugs you a little tighter than it should be, then it’s high time to learn something: you can’t believe everything that a man says when he is drunk. Do you really need this one?

Excuse: "At least he doesn't drink the strongest drinks." Don't be fooled. A guy who doesn't fall off his feet shouldn't get away with quietly turning off his brains to others, more the easy way every time you are together.

Remember:

His words mean nothing if he said them while drunk. "I love you" or the like, said under the influence of any drink stronger than grape juice, has no power in court and in real life.

The use of alcohol and drugs is not the way to the innermost feelings of a person.

You deserve a man who doesn't need to get drunk to spend time with you.

6. He doesn't like you that much if he doesn't want to marry you.

Each of your former men who told you that he does not want to marry, or does not believe in marriage, or he has doubts about marriage, someday he will certainly bind himself with sacred bonds. Just not with you.

Remember:

- "Does not want to marry" and "Does not want to marry me" are two different things. Make sure that you correctly determine which category your chosen one belongs to.

If you have opposing views on marriage, then there are sure to be other issues that will lead to disagreement.

If nothing changes in your relationship, then what are you waiting for?

Somewhere on earth there is a man who wants to marry you.

7. He doesn't like you that much if he dumped you.

Excuse: "He needs me." Do not be satisfied that he is bored without you. He must be bored. You are so unique. And yet he, as he was, and remained the man who left you.

Excuse: "After such a decision is much easier." There is one thing that a young man will never do if he cannot imagine his life without you: he will never leave you.

Excuse: "But then he wants to come back." Unfortunately, after you break up, your boyfriend starts looking for something better. And when he fails, he is seized by loneliness and returns "home". It doesn't sound like he likes you very much. He just really doesn't like being alone.

Excuse: "I refuse to accept the fact that he left me." I'm sorry he left you. Trying to get him back again and again, you make your ex-boyfriend think: “What did I even find in this psycho?”

Just remember one simple tip ladies: always be on top. Never go crazy.

Remember:

You can't prevent a breakup by talking. Debating won't help here. Termination of relations is a final decision, and it is not subject to appeal.

You don't need to remind him how great you are.

He can take care of his cat himself.

Somewhere, a young man is waiting for you, who will be just happy that you did not get back together with your terribly nasty ex-boyfriend.

8. He doesn't like you that much if he just up and disappeared.

Well, everything is very clear here. He made it clear to you that you are so not his type that he didn't even bother to leave you any news about himself.

Excuse: "Maybe he died." There is nothing worse than not getting a response from a loved one. The only reason why you should write to him again is the desire to receive an explicit refusal, now in verbal form. Have you forgotten? You are too busy with your fans and you don't have time for such nonsense.

Excuse: "So what, it turns out, I can't even quarrel with him one last time?" At first, it may seem that you will feel better if you call him and make a scandal. You may feel like you let him get away with it. But trust me, nothing you want to tell him will come as a revelation to him. And you already have something to spend your time on.

Excuse: "But I just want an answer." Do you deserve to know what really happened? Undoubtedly. I can tell you what happened: you dated a terrible person.

Remember:

Perhaps he really is in the hospital, suffering from amnesia, but most likely he is just not that interested in you.

The absence of an answer is his answer to you.

Don't give him the opportunity to reject you again.

Let his mother arrange scandals for him. And you are too busy for that.

There is no mystery here: he just left your life, and he was not worthy of you.

9. He doesn't like you that much if he's married (this includes all the other, most incredible reasons)

If you cannot love each other freely and openly, then that is not true love.

Remember:

He is married.

If he doesn't belong to you wholly and completely, then he belongs to her.

There are a lot of cool and gentle single men in the world. Try to meet one of them.

10. He doesn't like you that much if he acts like a selfish, selfish, braggart

If he really loves you, he will do his best to make you happy.

Excuse: "But he really wants to get better." loving people they try to treat each other well and even enjoy showing tenderness and care for their loved ones. If your partner is very bad at this, then in the end you reap the same benefits as in the situation called "He doesn't like you that much."

Excuse: "But he was just brought up that way." It doesn't have to be that he's crazy about your CD collection. It doesn't have to be that he likes all your shoes. But any full-fledged and prudent man is simply obliged to make an effort on himself and fall in love with your friends and your family.

Excuse: "But he will change." Short temper is not a temporary problem. People who yell at others simply don't know how to control themselves and need psychiatric help. People who yell at others feel they have a right to do so.

Justification: "After all, what matters is what happens between us alone." Why be with someone who needs to humiliate you in order to feel their own superiority? Especially in front of friends! And why should you pay attention to the fact that he treats you better when you are alone?

Excuse: "But he's just trying to help." It is very difficult to believe that you deserve true love when someone is trying their best to convince you that you do not deserve anything in this life at all. But, as I see it, all the exhortations to part with him still do not work on you. So to begin with, just realize: you are too good for this kind of relationship.

Remember:

You should not complicate an already difficult life by sharing it with a person who gives you a lot of trouble.

You are worthy of such a man who in any situation will behave with you as it should. (Don't forget that you should treat him well too.)

By getting rid of useless people, you will have a lot of free time that you can spend on what gives you pleasure.

Well, in the end, girls, you are great. Don't forget about it and appreciate yourself.

Communicating with a man, a woman from the first seconds should make it clear to him that he is not dealing with a yard girl who is inferior to him in quick wits, but with a fairly literate woman, a conversation with which he should take seriously. These, of course, are respected women, those of you who actually consider themselves as such will need it, regardless of what other people, including men, think of you. You can always change this opinion about yourself in the way you need. Follow certain rules in a conversation with a man and you will have a completely constructive dialogue with him, you will receive respect from a man and his sympathy for yourself. Let's see what those rules are.

First of all, every woman who has respect for herself and wants to be respected by the men around her should in no case feel inferior to them. You are equal to them, you are not a weak half of humanity, but only a beautiful part of it, that is, you better than men, this will fit. When communicating with men, a woman needs, first of all, to be straightforward, lay it out as it is, unless of course this is the bitter truth about him, I'm talking about the facts that you must state, and not your assumptions. In general, expressing your opinion is the misfortune of many people, regardless of their gender, it just so happens that this is observed more often for women, so give it up, do not draw your own conclusions for others. The facts should be stated briefly, there is no need to describe the entire chain of events, short and to the point, no unnecessary chatter, men appreciate it.

In most cases, start the conversation with the main thing, if we are talking about business men, they especially appreciate it, postpone all minor issues for later, you will discuss them after solving the main task. Of course, for this you need to be able to highlight the main thing, which requires you to be judicious and attentive, sometimes not interesting topic for a man, as well as for a woman, is reflected in their face, and one does not need to be an outstanding psychologist to notice this, since it is quite obvious. All that needs to be done in this case is simply to look for another topic that may be more relevant for this situation, and in principle you can ask directly what interests your interlocutor in this moment Remember, men love directness. As in the case of women, so in the case of men, you, dear women, need to carefully listen to your interlocutor, if he suddenly suffered to tell you everything that comes to mind. Men are different, this must be understood, it’s just that they always want to see themselves as the master of the situation, a male with a capital letter, but sometimes these males behave worse than any female, rattling their tongues left and right.

Smarter men talk little, but they love to ask questions, putting together a picture of your personality like a mosaic. And here, dear readers, I advise you to answer these questions very briefly and clearly, as men like it. Try to reflect questions with vague answers, that is, speak in general terms, less specifics. Well, if the questions themselves are posed more specifically, then in principle, in this case, you can answer a question with a question, of course, if you are not talking about really technical trifles in the case. I recommend that you do this if the topic of your conversation does not relate to any particular case, but is of a general nature and you are expected to tell a story about your family, attitude to life, your preferences, attitude towards men and so on. In general, you don’t need to post everything that women usually like to post, answering questions that seem quite normal to them, there is nothing for a man to know more about you than he should, a woman should always be a mystery.

Perhaps some moments will annoy your interlocutor, this is not excluded, but do not worry about this, in the vast majority of cases, it comes down to respecting you as a person, and not perceiving you exclusively as a woman, to whose words many men can relate not seriously. Believe me, dear women, such behavior does not detract from your feminine qualities. This I mean that you can have such a conversation not only in a business style, but also in the case of meeting a man. Business communication, of course, requires such an approach on your part, but when you meet, you should be the same, especially for men you don’t know. Male nature sometimes requires a dispute and evidence that he is a man, so if a man wants to argue, let him argue, give him the opportunity to feel like a lion, be restrained and calm. Arguing is generally characteristic of the unconscious state, but most people are in such a state. From a reasonable point of view, neither man nor woman, there is no point in arguing, because if you do not find common solution, you just need to look for other points of contact, and a dispute is essentially an attempt to break through the same gates, instead of looking for a secret passage.

Therefore, ladies, if you see that a man has rested his horns on the gate that he intends to break through, play along with him, tease him, resisting a little while arguing with him, let him puff, prove with complex arguments how smart he is. By the way, about the mind, as you know, it is very important for a man to be smart. In general, it is important for him to be smart, strong and first everywhere, and therefore, if you can highlight all these qualities in him, he can be said to be yours, because you control his emotional state, focusing his attention on thoughts that are pleasant for him about himself. yourself. Yes, emotions are peculiar not only to women, but also to men, I mean such emotions that can completely take over a person. Therefore, elementary admiration on your part, such qualities as intelligence, strength, courage, solidity, importance, and exclusivity, will melt him like a piece butter. A person is much more malleable than it seems at first glance, even if he is a serious and cautious man. So, as you can see, I told you everything in the order in which a conversation between a man and a woman usually takes place, with an orientation, of course, to a business conversation, with less emphasis on a personal conversation, in which there are a few more tricks, depending on , what you need. Start small, with what we've discussed here. To big successes it is necessary to move gradually, starting with small successes.

In this article, I first of all orient you to the natural beginning of a man, which must be taken into account when communicating with them. Sometimes, of course, there are also such men who have no masculine qualities at all, and it is impossible to find an approach to them in this way, they require a different approach to themselves, well then read the previous article on how to talk to women, this is an opportunity for improvisation. So anything can happen, because women are also masculine, therefore, one should not rely on their feminine essence. But in the overwhelming majority of cases, talk to men, dear ladies, exactly as it is written in this article, since this method of communication has been repeatedly tested and fully justified itself, including personal examples from my practice.

When building relationships with guys, it is important to adhere to certain rules. Many girls feel embarrassed, shy, and someone begins to behave too provocatively and boldly, trying to mask embarrassment. Often a girl puts on some kind of mask, inventing an image for herself that is too different from herself. As a result, communication can become unpleasant and relationships too confusing. Be yourself remember simple recommendations and always follow them. You will quickly learn how to communicate with guys correctly, become a natural, pleasant and interesting conversationalist.

Rules for talking to guys Your Goals
First of all, think about why you are establishing a relationship with a particular guy. This will also affect communication. Try not to constantly change your strategies and behaviors, do not mislead a person. In the process of communication, you should not play a double game, try to deceive the guy. No one will like falsehood and manipulation methods. So you can accidentally push a person away from you, without even wanting it.

Acquaintance. If your communication with a guy is still at the initial stage, you get to know each other, do not place any accents yourself. Sometimes girls immediately begin to establish closer contact. Someone, on the contrary, instantly makes you feel the distance, shows that only friendship is possible between them. You have not yet had time to understand what kind of guy is in front of you, how do you know how the relationship will develop later? Most often, after a while, a girl has to radically change her manner of communication when she is disappointed in a guy or suddenly sees him. positive sides. The young man will eventually decide that the girl is fickle, she herself does not know what she is striving for. In most cases, the impression remains unpleasant. In addition, the guy himself may want to outline the development of relations. If you do everything for him, he will not feel responsible.
Friendship. When you have already determined that you would like to be friends with a guy, try to gently show it if necessary. Communication should be natural, it is important to build relationships honestly. Do not leave any disagreements. If a guy has illusions, they must be dispelled. Otherwise, you will find yourself hostage to the wrong manner of communication: the longer you keep the guy delusions about your potential relationship development, the more difficult it will be later to explain to him how you really feel. It's no secret that some girls, not knowing exactly how the romance with their beloved will turn out, plan a "spare" with another guy. And then they act according to the circumstances. Don't play with fire! If you do this, you will hurt another person, sooner or later the same thing can happen to you. It is better to decide on all priorities at once.
Love. Are you in love? Yes, then it is simply necessary to communicate with guys correctly! You can make some of the most common mistakes that will push your loved one away from you. Try to follow some rules so that everything goes well, and communication is always pleasant:
- do not hide your feelings, you should not show indifference or arrogance, you should not be late for dates on purpose, etc.;
- do not rush to "rush on the neck" of the guy;
- behave carefully and do not try to cause jealousy, check the feelings of your loved one: why provoke a guy and worsen your relationship?

Once you've figured out what kind of relationship you're in, start building it calmly and carefully. Show care, attention, try to be yourself. Communication should be pleasant for both of you!

Learn how to properly communicate with guys. Some Tips
Follow simple rules so that your communication with guys is easy, natural and positive.

Be yourself. Create your image, change styles, correct flaws and improve for the sake of your loved one. But always be yourself. Do not try to appear better, weaker, stronger than you really are. You can be genuinely interested in a guy's hobby, even start attending football with him or go hiking. Just do not change at all, fully adapting to his interests, and do not try to deceive him by saying that cars are your passion. Especially if you do not distinguish Opel from Audi. Your game will open quickly and the guy will be disappointed.
Don't talk too much. Let the guy do the talking. He will probably get bored quickly if he only listens to you and fails to get a word in. You have a great opportunity to get to know the guy better, see how he behaves, how he directs the conversation, what he is interested in. Sometimes girls start talking a lot out of embarrassment, some tend to brag about their achievements. This should not be done - communication should be natural, two-way.
Do not be silent. The other extreme is silence. The girl is shy and does not know how to keep the conversation going. The guy will be completely unaware: maybe you are not interested? Or have you been thinking about your own for a long time, do not listen to him? Try to keep the conversation going, and if you don’t know or don’t understand something, just ask.
Let him make an appointment. It is not worth hinting at the next meeting. Much better if the guy makes the next appointment himself. The initiative must come from him. He will not only be happy with his leading role in a couple, but also feel a certain responsibility.
Modesty. Many are worried about what it is - modesty. And does a modern girl need it? Of course! This does not mean that you need to frown, be shy, shy away from any rapprochement. You just should not immediately agree to everything and demonstrate excessive courage and looseness. It is likely that at first the guy will even like this behavior, but then he will definitely think about whether to take your relationship as serious. Maybe this girl is just frivolous? The young man will probably decide that everything is not so important, since the relationship is developing so quickly.
Clothing. Choose outfits according to the circumstances. Why shine in a gorgeous dress if you just went out for a walk? The guy is dressed simply, and you look like a Hollywood star... He will feel awkward. Perhaps he will conclude that clothes play too big a role for you.
Cosmetics. The ideal option is to use a minimum of cosmetics, stick to one set of natural shades. Otherwise, the guy will probably be wondering: what are you hiding under the layers of cosmetics? Why is it so necessary?.. Emphasize your natural beauty, do not make a mask out of your face. Remember that most guys aren't into artificial looks.
Attentiveness and sensitivity. Does your boyfriend talk too much about himself? You wanted to point out to him his mistakes? Be careful! It is very important to be sensitive: it is very easy to offend a person, but it is not easy to correct the situation later. Try to be gentle.
Positive. A positive attitude will help you communicate with guys correctly. Build relationships freely, do not constrain yourself. It is not worth discussing problems for a long time, complaining about troubles is not worth it. Let communication bring joy.

Build relationships, figure out your feelings yourself and try not to deceive guys. Save your face, enjoy every conversation and be tactful. Then communication with the guys will be pleasant!